It seems like from the beginning of times, as young boys, we were told:
“Boys don’t cry”
From the shows that we watch to the music we listen to, we are reminded of this “theory.”
The truth is, there’s a difference between what we were taught and our actual reality, something instructor Jason Wilson can relate to.
Cave of Adullam, a faith-based group out of Detroit that was founded by Wilson to help teach young boys a practice known as Musar Ru. This practice is a combination of both martial arts and meditation, allowing the boys the complete control over their emotions in a way that can better serve them.
After Struggling to chop the piece of wood in half with is bare hands, 9-year-old Bruce was dominated by tears.
The video above was shared by the organization “to encourage all of you to not only allow your sons to cry when facing emotional stress, but more importantly, patiently walk them through it.”
The way Wilson handled the incident moved the many viewers that had the opportunity to share that moment.
The popularity of the video was proven by the million views that it was able to accumulate since it was posted on July 26, 2016:
“You know in life there’s going to be things harder to do than other things?” Wilson asks Bruce, coaching him through his emotions and reminding him that challenges are, at times, “going to take tears.”
It’s truly important for young boys, including men, find a way to reject the “boys don’t cry” theory, finding a way to express their thoughts and feelings in a healthy manner.
If you’re wondering why he’d stand behind that statement, “It’s true freedom,” Wilson explained to Upworthy.
“What we are witnessing is a generation of boys who were fathered by men who were given by their fathers a false sense of masculinity,” he said. “It’s imperative that we, the men and fathers of this generation, do not allow our boys to grow up the way many of us did.”
Unfortunately, many have followed the societal view and have not been able to relate to Wilson’s teaching.
According to a study that was conducted, both boys and men have a difficult time connecting emotionally on a deep level. Research suggests “it is culture rather than nature” that seems to be supporting such a self-destructive habit.
The question is, what can we do to make our young boys feel that it is ok to cry?
Wilson’s message was an encouraging message that opens up our eyes to the human inside of men, evading the “like a man” stereoptypes that incite that a man isn’t suppose to feel by his mere act of pretending that it isn’t there.
Thanks to Wilson’s poise and patience, Bruce was able to apply himself by taking a couple of deep breaths and executing his mission of breaking the board in half.
To learn more about how you can help Cave of Adullam continue their mission in helping #Rewordit!, visit its GoFundMe page.